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Archives for October 2013

Boycott Big

October 8, 2013 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

boycott big start with Walmart

My blog reading this morning has inspired a rant. Specifically the inspiration comes from a post by Corbett Barr of Think Traffic. The title of the post was Celebrate Small and in it Barr tells us of the pitfalls of the “size matters” trap. That error in thinking that smallness has to be resisted as if it were the enemy of progress. There is also an underlying message in his post…one that resonated with me on a deeper level.

It is revealed by this quote:

It’s hard to separate big from greed. A few people get rich when something goes public. Investors and founders get rich. Employees and users aren’t better off.

He’s right, it is hard, maybe impossible. But the prevailing mindset, nevertheless, is that bigger is better…be it bigger businesses, muscles, houses, banks and bank accounts, or, well, you know. I am here to join with Corbett and take issue with all that…well, that last one I won’t voice any opinion on.

Take the concept of the “big box” as an example. I moved to a little town in Costa Rica called Perez Zeledon about two years ago. I was living in San Jose…a very big city with a lot of big box stores…there you have your Walmarts, Office Depots, Price Smarts and so forth.

But here in Perez it is all mom and pop. I can remember back when small town U.S.A. used to be like that. But not any more, the big box concept destroyed it and turned small town U.S.A. into “ghost town” U.S.A.

And what happened to the “small farmer?” We actually still have those here in Costa Rica.

Now all that bigness might indeed be good for those investors and founders that Corbett mentions, but the rest of us…not so much, in my opinion.

Why is it that we suffer under this bigger is better illusion? Because along side of it there exists that related malady of mindset that more is never enough. What’s at the heart of it? In a word, greed.

In the movie The Social Network, when Sean Parker uttered that now famous line of “A million isn’t cool…You know what’s cool?…A billion,” I don’t think he had much more than “me, myself and I” in mind.

The bigger is better mindset is one that promotes scarcity and zero-sum.

Now, I’ll admit, as I type this and get ready to publish the finished product to Twitter and Facebook, that there is a tinge of hypocrisy in my hype. Twitter and Facebook are both big and getting bigger all the time. Big can be downright hard to avoid. It’s everywhere. It rules the world…to some extent.

But small is making a come back. And small is the way you and I can make an impact. As Corbett alluded to, small means a more intense level of connection. And our economy is becoming more and more driven by connection than by consolidation.

Small means a more intense level of connection. And our economy is becoming more and more driven by connection than by consolidation.

I believe people are becoming increasingly fed up with the commoditization of every facet of our lives. Because when that happens the quality of everything comes down, including that of life itself.

My message this morning is boycott big…not that we neglect the advantage of harnessing big for the advancement of the small…as many do with these gargantuan connection platforms…but we resist, even rebel against, the mindset that bigger is best…since it rarely ever is.

Let’s make impact the impetus…not shareholder return.

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Filed Under: Impact over Interest Tagged With: boycott big

Be Different Not Indifferent

October 3, 2013 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

be different not indifferent

Well I got a second chance yesterday. I posted the other day about a missed impact opportunity. I missed it because I failed to do myself what I encourage in this blog. I put my interest over my impact. But I was sitting in that same Subway and the same poor kids were outside once again. I guess that’s the regular routine for them to find something to eat. This time I was mindful of the things I speak of here. I was mindful of impact over interest. And those kids enjoyed a full stomach…at least on that day.

And then early this morning I witnessed something right in front of me here on my quiet street that caused me distress. There is an elderly gentleman who always walks by my house every morning. He sells lottery tickets in the center of town (what we call here in Costa Rica, “chances”). He was trying to dial a number on his phone, but apparently was having problems doing it, either due to poor eyesight or dexterity in manipulating those tiny “smart” phone buttons (I know because I have trouble with both even at my youthful 52…why can’t someone invent a smarter smart phone to deal with these issues?). An adolescent passed him on the sidewalk and the gentleman asked the youth for some help. This little snot just brushed him aside and continued his brisk pace. The scene made me angry. But that is the infirmity that inflicts our youth, as well as society in general. And it is true here in Costa Rica just as much as in the U.S. And that infirmity is indifference.

What is the source of indifference? A mindset of interest (self) over impact, pure and simple. Take this current mess in Washington D.C. I don’t want to get political in this blog. I have in the past. The problem is that politics always tends to polarize and that is the opposite of the Big US that impact mindfulness teaches. But I’ll use this current event as an example. What is really going on here? There is a small group of Congressman whose constituents do not like the Affordable Care Act (what they call, “Obamacare”). I am not even sure if it is “Obamacare” that is the real problem…more than likely it is the man himself they don’t “care” for (for reasons I won’t go into in this post). So, they have decided to shut down the entire government of the U.S. unless they get what their constituents want…some sort of repeal of this law…that previously passed both houses of Congress as well as constitutional muster via review by the Supreme Court. It is also a law that provides health insurance to millions who could not otherwise afford it. But that doesn’t matter. They don’t like it and to hell with the rest.

What is the source of indifference? A mindset of interest (self) over impact, pure and simple.

You see, for me that is the same attitude that this youth had when he rudely brushed aside the small and simple request of the elderly gentleman. There was such a lack of respect on display that it really ignited a passion within me to run out and give “a good talking” to the little shit. And we humans crave respect. It is quintessential to a dignified existence. And everyone wants that. We cannot all be millionaires. But we can all expect respect.

We humans crave respect. It is quintessential to a dignified existence. And everyone wants that. We cannot all be millionaires. But we can all expect respect.

Being indifferent to another human, who just wants some dignity, some respect, is the ultimate slap in the face of humanity. Why do we do that to one another? How could we? Easy…because we are only concerned with what interests us. If Obamacare has the minuscule chance of costing me an extra buck in order to provide someone the dignity of healthcare (who could not otherwise afford it), to hell with them. I want it repealed and I demand that my Congressman take action to see that it is, the consequences to the nation be damned.

Interest over impact my friends. That is the problem we face in our youth, on our streets, in our cities, in our nation and throughout our planet.

Impact mindfulness might just be the cure we should be looking for.

Impact mindfulness encourages us to be different not indifferent.

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Filed Under: Impact over Interest Tagged With: impact mindfulness, indifference

The Art of Nonconformity in Costa Rica

October 2, 2013 by costaricaguy 1 Comment

Chris Guillebeau Art of Nonconformity

Read Chris Guillebeau’s manifesto for the first time this morning. I don’t know why it has taken me so long to do that. I am a big fan of this young guy. I have read $100 Start-Up and follow his blog. Chris is much younger than I am. I only wish I could have had his wisdom in my 30’s. Instead I was thinking like the typical conformista. Doing it the way it is “supposed” to be done. And as time did tell, that didn’t work out so well for me.

The manifesto is entitled, A Brief Guide to World Domination. In it Chris instructs us how to live a nonconformist life, and do things like take over small countries. In reality, his manifesto has impact mindfulness written all over and under it. He just uses different terminology.

I guess in some ways I did follow his advice. I did “occupy” a small country. And the manifesto inspired thought this morning on what that all means. What has turning nonconformist and occupying this strange place that I now call home really meant to my life? In other words, what is it that I really love about this place?

My entire worldview has drastically changed as a result of my over a decade long experience of Costa Rica. What can I honestly say that I like most about that experience? Is it the language, or the landscapes, the waves, or the women, the freedom, or the frivolity? As impressive as all of those things are…nope…it’s none of those things. What I like most is the change living here has wrought upon me…primarily in the following 3 ways…

Change #1: Learning Humility

When I first came to Costa Rica I was anything but humble. I was a lawyer-MBA type who was flown down to orchestrate a large business deal. It was a heady experience and one that indeed did go directly to that part of my body. I had what you might call a Mark Sanford-esque experience (and anyone from my home state of South Carolina will know exactly what that means).

But all that came crashing to an end and when the dust finally settled (I did as well) I had acquired a new home. And I learned, gradually, to be humble. Living in a foreign country can do that to you, if you really immerse. Oh, there are plenty who come here and never do that. But that is not my nature. I did immerse and it changed me.

How? Well, I believe the natural grandeur of this place put me in my place. I was, and still am, humbled by both the beauty, power and fragility of nature. I was humbled into dismissing the notion that human progress can proceed in a way that puts us at odds with nature. Nature will either win that battle, or the “spoils” will leave a bitter taste in the mouth of the victor.

I was humbled by living shoulder to shoulder with people who were different. I gradually came to the realization that being from the world’s largest superpower doesn’t make me any more exceptional than they already were. Neither did my education, money, language, customs, intelligence, or anything else. That we are all just people striving for the same basic thing…to live a dignified life.

I gradually came to the realization that being from the world’s largest superpower doesn’t make me any more exceptional than they already were.

Change #2: Learning Respect

I came here thinking very firmly that I had all the right answers. That the indoctrination of my upbringing, education, church and nationality made me a much brighter person than I really was. I often notice that attitude with gringos who come here either to visit or live. If it is to live, you either learn to respect, or you are in for a very unhealthy experience. Those are the ones who grow bitter and continuously grumble about how the ticos have it all wrong. Well, they may have it all wrong, but they’re smiling (actually laughing at you) while you sit miserable.

You see, it pays to learn to respect other viewpoints. It enhances your human experience to learn to stand in the other fellow’s shoes, especially if those shoes are far different from ones you have ever tried on. It is one of the greatest lessons of life I have learned here. It has served to remove those impact blinders that I came here wearing. I began to see the world from a different and far more open-minded perspective.

It enhances your human experience to learn to stand in the other fellow’s shoes, especially if those shoes are far different from ones you have ever tried on.

Change #3: Learning Patience

For many years this came as a hard lesson for me. I did not understand the concept of time that existed here. It seemed as if time didn’t matter, or at least that these people certainly didn’t respect my incessant worry over its scarcity. They seemed to take the view that there really was enough time to go around and meet everyone’s needs. Maybe that’s because there is a far different definition of “needs meeting” here than exists up there. People here just get along with a lot less and are content with that. The idea of arranging your life to achieve maximum efficiency with the goal of having more just doesn’t occur to most people here. The goal of life here is not to have more, but to live more. The two are not the same (I know that may come as a surprise to many).

The goal of life here is not to have more, but to live more. The two are not the same (I know that may come as a surprise to many).

So a much slower pace of life is what prevails. One that breathes deeper meaning into the concept of “relaxing and smelling roses.” And there are so many “roses” to smell here…maybe that’s the impetus. In the U.S. people strive to make a gazillion so they can have maybe 50% of the peaceful experience that a tico making less than half the poverty rate in the U.S. has simply by walking outside of his humble choza (home) and taking in the spectacular and completely free panoramic vista of his daily existence. So why should he be in a hurry?

So, first out of sheer necessity, and later out of a deeper understanding of true happiness, I slowed down. And I believe (hope) that it has added years to my life. It has certainly decreased the moments of panic and rage.

Maybe you expected something different with this post. Maybe you expected me to tell of my favorite location, activity, or experience. But no, my favorite things about living here are the life’s lessons it has taught me. I have learned the art of nonconformity in Costa Rica. I am grateful for that.

Oh, and if you would like to learn more about those lessons, you can always get my own Misfit Manifesto.

Filed Under: The Big US Tagged With: art of nonconformity, chris guillebeau, costa rica

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