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Radio! Reflections from LA County Jail: Part 1

February 25, 2015 by costaricaguy 5 Comments

Radio! Reflections from LA County Jail

They say everything happens for a reason.

I’ve always believed that to be true, even though it sounds a tad ecumenical for an agnostic sort like me.

I guess the “why” of what happened to me from the very moment I set my foot upon U.S. soil on February 2nd, 2015, until February 23rd, could be explained from several different vantage points…

I deserved it (and believe me there are many out there who would choose that one)…

It was meant to be (a more positive way to spin it)…

or, I’ve been bitten by that proverbial snake of outrageously misfortunate venom…

But, here’s the thing…

The “why” is inconsequential compared to the “what” I learned from the experience, so I refuse to address matters of why in this blog…it’s simply not the place for that…

I woke up early this morning and posted the following to my Facebook wall. It perhaps sheds a little light on my motivations for writing about all this (forgive me for the rambling length of the following sentence, but, like I said, it was a Facebook comment)…

for “the record”, which FB wall posts and comments have now become an integral part of, I need to say, clearly, since what I say is judged by some in the most negative light possible, that when I commented above that the why is “inconsequential”, I didn’t mean to imply that I haven’t made decisions in my life that led to this event, but only that what I will emphasize in my writing about it is not “why” it happened, since doing that, although it could be cathartic, would not be impactful, but about my opinion, which has been solidified in many ways by this event, that there are two vastly different American experiences and that there’s a growing minority that lacks the economic means to pursue happiness on terms acceptable to the majority of those who do…and it seems incarceration is all too often our capitalistic society’s answer to that dilemma…

This morning I thought I’d start this hopefully captivating series of observations from my three weeks in captivity in LA County Jail with a blow by blow chronological account of the event…

as I know there are many out there desiring to hear the sordid details…

February 2 – 4: I had an early morning flight out of San Jose, Costa Rica. My wife and I had decided to move to the States to improve our position in life economically and this was the day for that plan to be set in motion. I boarded the flight with three bags containing all the belongings I desired to take with me from my decade long Costa Rica experience.

Radio! Reflections from LA County Jail

I was bound for Portland, Oregon, the place we’d decided to call home for awhile, but had a layover in LAX. The flight was delightful with clear weather the entire route and I snapped many photos from my window seat of the vast expanse of Mexico as it passed 39,000 feet below the fuselage.

I was surprised to learn when I entered customs and immigration that you were required to scan your passport through a computer prior to engaging with a live agent. When I did so I didn’t notice that the printout contained a large X.

After a few moments staring into the screen, the agent informed me of shocking news. I had an outstanding warrant for my arrest…and arrested I was…on the spot…like some highly sought after international terrorist.

They handcuffed me to a metal bench while the agents sorted things out. The warrant was issued from South Carolina, on a “family matter.” Upon learning that it immediately dawned upon me what was afoot. I was told that probably it was inconsequential and that I’d soon be released and allowed to proceed to my connecting flight.

But it wasn’t inconsequential. South Carolina “wanted me.” It’s flattering to be so desired, but this is one time when I would’ve gladly embraced rejection. I was deeply concerned about many things at this point…the plan…my wife…my business…my stuff. The stuff was placed in storage and I was assured it would be there when and if this nightmare ended.

I was taken into custody by the infamous LAPD and led downtown, hands cuffed behind my back, for booking. Afterwards I was taken to the 77th Avenue “holding tank” where they hold arrestees for 72 hours until arraignment. I was given the ability to make the proverbial one phone call, but only local calls were allowed. Having never set foot in Los Angeles in my 54 years on this planet and having just left my beloved in Costa Rica, the privilege of a “local” call really didn’t help me much.

I was more than cooperative at every turn as the last thing I wanted to do was worsen my situation by copping an attitude. I gently expressed to an officer my concern about informing my poor wife of the rapidly unfolding situation. He told me not to worry as I would surely be released the next day if no one from South Carolina showed up to retrieve me.

They gave me a couple blankets and put me in a cell with several other arrestees. Everyone was sleeping and I climbed into the concrete slab of a bed, covered myself with the blankets and tried to do the same…at that point I wasn’t completely sure if what was unfolding was reality, or just a nightmare.

The next day did not bring release as informed. I remained in custody at 77th until the following day when I was chained to three of my fellow prisoners and transported by bus to court…for exactly what, I wasn’t sure, since I had done absolutely nothing in LA county that I could possibly be prosecuted for…at least not in this life.

Going to court was an experience in and of itself. I was put in a holding cell for hours with about 20 or so others. I’d befriended a couple of other “old dudes” who repeatedly assured me from their vast criminal justice experience that I’d be getting out of there shortly, since what they were holding me for was relatively minor in the overall scheme of things.

They were wrong. A court appointed attorney finally showed up and informed me that I needed to sign a “waiver” (of my rights to fight extradition) that would give South Carolina thirty days to come and get me. If they failed to do so, only then would I be released.

That didn’t appeal to me, so I asked for an alternative option. She informed me that I could “time waive” the matter for two days. I decided to do that as I optimistically believed I could resolve the matter with a phone call.

With that decision I would become inmate 4226104 in LA County Jail.

I’d sparked a conversation with a Nicaraguan dude named Mario who was also headed over to “county” with me. He’d been in and out of there a number of times and reassured me that I’d be OK. He gave me some pointers, like to make sure I asked for shoes one size larger than what I normally wore.

The process of getting booked into LA County Jail lasted throughout the night. I was issued my “county blues” and finally, after about 10 hours of waiting in one holding pen after another, given a bed in the medical tower. I had to be medically cleared before being moved to “permanent” housing due to the minor heart condition that I informed them that I took medication for.

I passed the first night in county in a cell with one other inmate. They kept the bright fluorescent lights on throughout the night and every hour upon the hour, an officer would pass by and tap on the window to make sure that neither I, nor my cellmate, had passed in our slumber.

February 5 – 6: The following day I awoke to “count.” This was a process that I would become all too familiar with over the coming days and weeks.

The medical tower “pod” housed me along with another 60 or so inmates. I quickly noticed that only about 10% of those were Caucasian, with the rest divided evenly between African-American and Latino. That was a ratio that held constant throughout my stay in County.

Later that day I did get to see the doctor and was informed that I’d be given my medications shortly. They never showed. While I sat waiting to see the doctor they brought in an inmate who’d been placed on suicide watch. I learned that the last thing you wanted to do was admit to such inclinations, as they would strip you naked, clothe you in nothing but a “horse-blanket”, and place you in solitary confinement. The poor guy seemed panicky and scared. He was Latino and I tried to spark a conversation with him in Spanish to help take his mind off his troubles. I wanted to tell the nurses that they really should attend to him in some way, but decided in my own self-interest that it probably wouldn’t be the best idea. In fact, I learned that talking with guards, nurses, or anyone else who wasn’t a fellow inmate, for any reason, wasn’t a very good idea.

The medical pod did have a few phones that allowed collect calls and I was finally able to reach someone on the outside. I got word to my wife about what had transpired and talked with others in hopes of finding some resolution to my dilemma.

Early in the morning on February 6th, perhaps around 1:00 or 2:00 PM (I can’t be sure because they purposefully refuse to allow inmates to ever be cognizant of the time) I was awoken and told to “roll it up.”

I was marched to a holding tank that already contained a multitude of groggy inmates. I was soon to learn that this was a regular procedure at LA County Jail. After several hours the tank was emptied and we were all marched, shoulders against the right-side wall, to Tower 2. What happened next was one of the most degrading episodes of my life to that point…I was strip searched. There were a number of officers who managed this search and I wasn’t sure whether it actually served some useful purpose, or whether they were simply trying to make our lives a bit more miserable.

After the search we were given bunks in A-Pod 272, another holding tank that housed around 90 inmates, packed in like sardines.

Early in the morning on February 6th I was called to court, once again chained to three other inmates and transported on the bus.

I passed the day in court in optimistic hope that my phone call had worked and that I’d be released that day. The same attorney returned and gave me similarly sad news. I resolved to fight and told her that I would not sign that damn paper and to put it off again through the weekend, when I’d return Monday and achieve my victory. She shook her head and reluctantly agreed, as she just wanted a signature on the waiver so she could be done with me. I noticed that most of the court appointed attorneys for other inmates had similar non-zealous attitudes about their clients’ cases. I saw one of them nonchalantly inform his young Latino client that he was facing his “third strike”, which meant life in prison. The young gang member looked at me with panicked eyes and asked what I thought he should do. “Man, get another lawyer”, was the only reply I could muster.

February 7 – 9: After court I went back to A-pod 272 and found to my delight that it was completely empty. I asked for a “fish-kit”, containing shampoo, soap and deodorant, as I really needed a shower. Later that evening the cell was filled to the brim with other inmates returning late from court.

A-pod 272 is a transfer tank and generally inmates are held there a couple days at most. Since I had court again on Monday, I was there for the weekend. I befriended a couple other inmates, one a young fellow named Justin from Baton Rouge, and the other a slightly older than me white-haired character from Virginia named Casey. They both were sympathetic to my plight. Casey took it upon himself to don me “Carolina”, as he constantly liked to tease me about the long bus ride across the country I’d soon endure. He was just kidding around as he confided to me on more than one occasion that according to his extensive incarceration experience, hell would certainly freeze over before South Carolina would transport me across the country for the trouble that I was in.

I made a call on Sunday that I thought for sure would gain my release the next day. So early Monday morning on February 9th off to court I went for the third time. Once more, I was overly optimistic. I succumbed to my fate and signed the damn waiver Ms. Griffith kept waiving in my face. That started the clock for South Carolina to carry out the decision to extradite me, or not. They had until February 23rd, with a ten day extension.

I came back to an empty A pod 272 once again, but the pleasure was short-lived as a few hours later I was on a bus for the hour-long trip to Wayside, also known as SuperMax.

February 10 – 15: After being transported from one holding tank to another for a week, I was finally taken to “permanent” housing in Dorm 611, SuperMax. I finally got to see exactly what all the talk about prison “politics” was about.

When I entered the dorm the rep for the “woods” addressed me and the one other newly arrived white guy about dorm rules and politics. You see every dorm is divided racially. There are 3 groups…the brothers and others, consisting of African-Americans, Southeast Asians, and Indians, the southsiders and paisas, who were the Latinos and then woods (as in “peckerwood”), or white guys. Rules consisted of things like where you could relieve yourself and where you were forbidden to do so, where you could eat, or sit, or shower, or what phone you could use, clean up duties, exercise requirements and the like. I was told that when I heard the word “radio”, I was to shut up and pay attention. The penalty for non-compliance? Well, I did see one young “brother” get disciplined for rules breaking of some sort. I quickly decided that while such racial division is diametrically opposed in every conceivable way to my world view, I’d better comply to the letter.

The days in Dorm 611 were divided by the 4 counts we had to endure each day. For each count you had to be fully dressed in county blues, on your bunk, either sitting up or lying down with head at the foot. We were constantly reminded by our reps not to be the reason for causing the entire dorm privilege denials due to someone not being fully prepared for count.

They do feed you regularly and fairly well in prison. They continually checked my blood pressure and even took a blood sample. I was finally given my meds. I’ll have to say, if one can keep his mind right, staying healthy in prison perhaps in some ways is easier than it is on the outside, with the myriad of temptations out there that are nonexistent in jail.

I met quite a few characters while in Dorm 611. There was a young heroin addict named Kirby who had a dark sense of humour and thought my situation for being there to be particularly amusing. There was “bad Grandpa”, who in his mid-sixties was the oldest guy in the dorm (I was actually the second). Bad Grandpa looked considerably older than he was. He was a very experienced inmate who regaled us with his outlaw tales. There was our tall “wood” rep who we called “Bluedog.” He was fond of writing love songs to female companions on the outside and then serenading us with them in his Jason Miraz-like voice. About half-way into my stay my old A-pod buddy Casey even showed up. All in all, my time at Wayside was perhaps the best of my days in jail. I spent them voraciously reading and actually finished books in record times that I’d before never been able to accomplish.

I went to bed on Sunday, February 15th around 9:30, but was awoken from a dead sleep by Kirby. “Carolina, Carolina, get up man, you’re going home”, said Kirby. I replied groggily. “Yea man, they just called you, you’re going home.”

I rolled up my stuff and asked the guards what I was being called out for. No one knew for sure, although they did comment that release was one possibility.

As I was led down the hallway to the jail exit I saw an officer, dressed in full SWAT gear, running in the opposite direction and carrying what looked like a bazooka. The officer that had come to retrieve me informed me that a fight had broken out in one of the dorms on the 600 block. When I’d left it had been completely peaceful in Dorm 611, but I was thankful that I potentially got out of there just before a riot, complete with teargas and who knows what else.

I was transported back downtown, hands handcuffed behind my back for the entire hour long ride. Another fellow was being transported at the same time, but in an ambulance, as he’d been involved in the melee and had received a razor cut across the face.

Once we arrived back at Old County I was placed in a holding tank and kept there about 10 hours. It was crowded, there was no room to lay down, so I just sat and waited. Finally I was retrieved and led to Dorm 507, the so-called “Old Man’s Dorm” that I’d been told about. Once again, I was greeted by the wood rep and informed of the rules. However, I found out that the politics were much more relaxed in this dorm than it had been in 611 at Wayside.

Since I’d been led to believe that I was enduring another mid-night transfer in order to be released, it was a great let down to find out I was simply being re-housed. You might be asking yourself why do they keep transferring inmates from here to there and back again. That’d be an awfully good question. I don’t know the answer for sure, but I was told by many that there was an economic incentive involved.

February 16 – 18: My days in the Old Man’s Dorm were uneventful. I kept to myself and read. At this point I began to get the feeling that perhaps I was trapped in a never-ending nightmare. Would I ever see the light of day again? I wasn’t sure.

It did make some sense to transfer me all the way back to the downtown jail, since if South Carolina was coming to get me, I’d have to released and retrieved from there.

February 19: Sure enough that occurred early Thursday morning on the 19th. The wood rep woke me up around 4:30 am and told me to roll it up as I was being released. What? Released? As good as that sounded it was to be a release “in custody”, meaning the answer had finally arrived…I was actually being extradited to South Carolina.

Guess where they took me? Of course, to another holding tank…the “extradition” tank. I was the first one in there. Later some others came in. I asked where they were headed…some said Texas, others Florida. One Indian guy had succumbed to an eerily identical fate as I’d experienced back on the 2nd. He’d been living in Latin American as well and had first learned of a warrant upon reentering the U.S.

I looked across the hall to the tank directly in front and there were a bunch of inmates in there…including my buddy Casey! He made hand gestures to ask if I was off to Carolina. I nodded in the affirmative. He shook his head in disbelief.

At that point I had no idea what to expect. Would they take me by bus, which would encompass a painful weeklong trip, or by plane? And what would become of all my possessions, which I trusted were still in storage at LAX? At that point I’d begun to expect the worst.

I got my answer around 9:30 am. The extradition agent showed up and informed me I’d be flying back. I asked him if we could make sure that my stuff would be on the same flight. He told me he could make no promises, but would do what he could.

I was handcuffed and led to the airport. I wore a jacket with my hands in the pockets and extended out through holes cut in them…the handcuffs were thereby concealed so as not to “scare the old ladies.”

I was fortunate to have Charles as my extradition agent. He did indeed make sure that my luggage made it onto the flight. He also let me have one hand-free the entire time, which helped with matters such as eating and drinking my first cup of hot coffee in 2.5 weeks.

We finally arrived at Myrtle Beach airport around 10:30 Thursday evening. I’d carried on my backpack with my computer, so I entered J. Rueben Long Detention Center with only that in tow. The rest of my stuff we just left on the turnstile. Charles reassured me not to worry and that the airport would store it until someone could be sent to pick it up.

I spent that night in another holding tank, but this time in a different jail…in Horry County, South Carolina.

February 20 – 23: The four nights I spent in the Horry County jail had a different tone. I was now in the place that actually had jurisdiction to dispose of my case…which could mean disposing of me…for anywhere from 30 days to a year.

I went to court early in the morning on February 20th. I was already given my orange county jumpsuit. While I always went to court in LA in my county blues, but un-cuffed, in Horry County, they lead you into court in hand and ankle cuffs…ala the chain gang on Old Brother Where Art Thou…it’s a humbling experience.

I told the judge my view of the situation. He wasn’t that sympathetic. Luckily I’d made a phone call early that morning that helped me. The judge put the whole case off until Monday when others would be in court who were pertinent to resolving my issues.

So, I spent that weekend in J. Rueben Long. I don’t have a lot to say about it. It wasn’t pleasant, but after a few calls I could finally catch a glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel. That helped get me through it.

Early Monday I went to court for the last time. I was able to resolve the issue, with the help of my father, and was finally released.

As I exited the jail in the freezing cold with my father waiting in the car outside, I can tell you for sure that freedom had never felt so cherished.

I will be writing in the coming days about specific observations and impacts stemming from those fateful three weeks that spanned February 2 to 23.

My purpose in doing so will not be about me, or the situation that led me to custody, but to hopefully shed some light on this perplexing situation of mass incarceration of poor people in our supposedly free country.

Filed Under: Impact over Interest Tagged With: impact over interest, LA County Jail

Straining Gnats and Swallowing Camels

January 13, 2015 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

On Straining Gnats and Swallowing Camels

I’ll admit “the news” can be pretty addicting.

But it pays to remember what the underlying objective of nonstop “news”, by the likes of CNN, Fox and others, is…

making money.

Don’t get fooled into believing otherwise.

Yesterday, I got involved in a Facebook comment string on a post about how Obama was criticized, especially by Fox News, for failing to attend a rally in Paris in solidarity against the Charlie Hebdo terrorist attack.

My take on the matter was…WTF cares!

And really, I could say that about a lot of things that masquerade as news these days.

I especially like to pick on Fox.

Why?

Because they don’t even put up much of an effort towards being a legitimate news channel.

It’s very hard for me to take Fox News serious…and the same goes for the likes of Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck’s TheBlaze.

Just take a look at the websites of Limbaugh and Beck.

What seems to be the objective there…to enlighten their readers with good and useful information, or simply to make Beck and Limbaugh more money?

Both sites are massive eyesores…

Littered with ads trying to sell everything from guns and ammo to identity theft protection.

Don’t Rush and Glenn already have enough fucking money not to have to distract their readers with relentless ads about stuff no one really needs.

No, of course not…there’s never enough, right?

You see, it’s not about the message…it’s about the money.

I believe all these guys, and especially Fox news, foment our worst fears and prejudices because they know that’s what drives ratings.

And those ratings make the paychecks of O’Reilly and Hannity larger, and ultimately inflate the wealth of the Newscorp billionaire owner, Rupert Murdoch.

That, IMHO, is the real purpose behind the existence of Fox News, as well as Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck…

And in pursuit of that purpose, they do major harm to people and planet.

How?

Well, a particular case in point is the extent to which they add to the absolute ignorance that is global warming denial.

And as their massive audiences fall prey to this insanity, the more certain Congressman are emboldened to remain in the pockets of big oil and block any legislative attempt to do something to solve a very serious problem…

Same goes with spiraling wealth inequality, racial strife and other divisive issues of our day.

People and the planet we live on are thus threatened by all this nonsense in the name of “news” dissemination profiteering.

This is serious stuff folks.

If Rush or Beck really wanted to get their messages across, perhaps they could take the lead of one of my favorite bloggers…

Leo Babauta of zenhabits.net.

Check out his site. See any adds? See anything at all other than the bare message that he’s presenting to his reading audience.

It’s not that Leo doesn’t need to make a living…hell, he’s got a wife and 6 kids!

But to Leo, what’s more important is improving the quality of life of his readers…making the world a better place…not making money.

And he does just fine with the quarter of a million or so who regularly view his blog.

The Fox News, Beck and Limbaugh approach to “news” presentation reminds me of what Jesus once said about the Pharisees of his day, who he viewed as a threat to the people of Israel…they’re all about (and I paraphrase)…

Straining gnats and swallowing camels.

In other words, they don’t have their attention on, and they’re certainly not trying to direct our attention to, what’s most important.

They have the power at their disposal to make things better, to be impact mindful…

But do they use it that way?

No, instead they try to peddle us garbage and feed on our worst fears, just so they can make an extra million or two.

I’m here to tell you that further increases to their already massive net worths is NOT what’s most important.

They certainly don’t deserve nearly the amount of attention that people give them.

image credit: News Corpse via Compfight cc

Filed Under: Impact over Interest Tagged With: Fox News, glenn beck, impact over interest, Rush Limbaugh

My Life in Thirds

January 8, 2015 by costaricaguy 1 Comment

A Life in Thirds

As 2014 drew to a close, as well as the 54th year being me, I reflected on my life in thirds…

The first 27 years were marked by a great deal of flailing.

That is, flailing around this or that, trying to figure out who Scott Bowers really is…

an artist?

an athlete?

a drugged out beach bum?

a hard-working, motivated young man on a mission?

And then one day, in 1987, at the close of my first 3rd, it dawned upon me that Scott Bowers, more than anything else, was destined for great financial success…for fame and fortune.

That set the course for the next 17 years, which were filled with activity in the pursuit of success, first as a lawyer, then as an entrepreneur.

And I did achieve limited success…

educationally and financially.

At least for fleeting moments.

But then something happened that to this day I can’t quite put a finger on…in terms of the exact reason(s) why…

This “metamorphosis” happened about 10 years ago.

Success, in the capitalistic sense, simply ceased to be a priority for me.

Maybe it’s because I exchanged that desire for another one…the desire to indulge.

So I spent half a decade, or more, doing just that…

Indulging to my heart’s content.

But about half-way into that decade, around 2009, I began having these idealistic notions of there being more to life than success, or indulgence.

I began to think that maybe there’s a purpose to it all that’s grander than me.

That it really isn’t all about me, myself and I.

This line of thinking has persisted to the point of provoking a crisis in my life that is now demanding decisive action.

So, as I close out 2/3’rds of my life…the first 54 years of it…I question what to make of the next 27 years…

the next, and perhaps final, 3rd.

In that regard, I’ve decided to make the following three vows, which will define the final 3rd of the life of Scott Bowers…

  1. I hereby disavow any desire for success in terms of fame, or fortune. I once thought that was my destiny…well, it’s obviously not.
  2. I hereby vow to do what is in my power to enhance the quality of the lives I love the most, chiefly my wife, our children, and, when the time comes, our grandchildren.
  3. I hereby vow to live my life according to the principles of impact mindfulness, which means being dedicated to my writing and to activism on causes I care deeply about…the environment and social justice.

In many ways I’ve wasted the previous 54 years of my life.

Wasted them by attempting to climb a ladder without a top rung, which also happened to be leaning against the wrong wall.

Well, I’ve come back down to earth…my feet are finally firmly planted on solid ground…and I know what I want my life to be about in the relatively short time I have left.

This blog and the idea for impact mindfulness will play a key role in my future.

I don’t know how exactly…but they must.

I do feel somewhat remorseful about wasting much of my life up until now.

Yet, perhaps I never would’ve come to my current realization were it not for those wasted years.

My Life in Thirds

Were it not for those years, neither would I be the person I am in the present, a person I believe adequately prepared and mentally focused to pursue his vows.

In fact, this is the first time in a very long time that I feel…focused.

So, in that sense, I guess the first 2/3’rds weren’t a waste at all…and really shouldn’t be lamented as such.

They shaped me into a much wiser person. A person who cares about his world, even more than he does about himself.

A world that I would like to leave to others in a better condition than the one I found it in.

Will you hold me accountable to these vows?

Filed Under: Impact over Interest Tagged With: impact over interest

How to Win a Facebook Debate

January 4, 2015 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

How to Win a Facebook Debate

I really believe that social networks, of which Facebook certainly dominates, can be great sources of social change.

A place where consensus can be found to solve the many problems faced by people and planet.

However, all too often what I will herein denote as “Facebook debates” tend to devolve into childish insult trading among the comments of the parties on opposite sides of the issue under discussion.

It’s as if each thinks that he or she can win the debate simply by being more offensive than the other.

That really doesn’t work.

I mean, what’s the real purpose of a debate?

Is it to demean your opponent?

Is it to make yourself appear more clever than your opponent?

I would say that the answer to those questions is NO, even though that tends to be the way we gauge the winners and losers of the televised political debates we’re accustomed to.

If you can just get that one-line zinger in that really causes your opponent to sweat a bit harder, like Bentsen did to Quayle back in 98, then we’ve got a winner.

I’m going to suggest a different tactic for how to win a Facebook debate, or any other, for that matter…

When I put forth a position in a debate, or a simple Facebook discussion, in the form of a solution to the issue at hand, or the problem posed, I then want to support my position in a way that causes the other side to accept or agree with it.

If I can do that, well, then I’ve won.

But what if the other side to the debate is so ideologically entrenched that getting him or her to agree on anything, even the most obvious point, seems impossible?

In that case, perhaps you can initiate the idea for some common ground that will move the other side closer to a mutually acceptable solution, idea, or position.

Because when it comes right down to it, we’re not all that different in our basic needs and desires as humans, are we?

The purpose of the debate should be, even though it rarely is, to move forward towards a solution…

No?

Simply playing a game of one-upmanship doesn’t accomplish that.

I believe that’s why those political debates are worthless…

It’s never about solutions. It’s a media-driven show to prove one candidate the winner, not because of the higher quality of his ideas, but because he’s somehow able to demean the stature of the other fellow.

That might help you popularity-wise, and maybe even vote-wise, but it doesn’t move society forward one iota.

The same goes for these Facebook comment back and forth’s that all too often degenerate into “dissing” matches…

Now, granted, there are some out there who’ve perfected the art of the insult, or the offensive comeback. I don’t know who invented the term “libtard”, but it’s pretty clever, in a sophomoric way.

Being offensive doesn’t make you a good debater, nor does it prove that your ideas, if you actually possess any, have merit.

And it certainly doesn’t produce solutions…it just moves the parties further apart.

So, my suggestion is this, “can” the insults and show us your ideas…

New Facebook Debate Rule: Ideologies and the ideas they degenerate are fair game…people are not. Tweet It Out

Of course, complying will require an activity that perhaps we could all stand to engage in a bit more…

It’s called thinking.

If that was an insult…well, then I apologize.

I’m simply suggesting an alternative to the normally venomous political diatribes masquerading around social media under the guise of “debates.”

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A Decade of Indulgence

December 26, 2014 by costaricaguy 1 Comment

A Decade of Indulgence

This blog is all about inspiring an impactful life.

But sometimes I write personal things about myself…like this post.

It’s relevant because, basically, I’m pointing that bony finger of indignation back at me!

Using myself as an example of what not to do.

Because in terms of actually living an impactful life, I’ve failed in many respects.

I often talk about my 13 years in Costa Rica. But the closing of this year marks a decade of actually living here. The first couple years I was still residing in the States, traveling back and forth frequently in pursuit of my Costa Rica deal.

2004 was the year of my divorce. A lost year that I really have pretty much blocked from my memory.

So, actually it’s been from 2005 until now that I can legitimately consider myself a “resident” of Costa Rica.

And if I had to choose a phrase to describe it, I would say that it’s been a decade of indulgence.

I would venture to say most gringo expats come to Costa Rica in order to live an indulgent life. It’s not that difficult to do that here, as there are so many things to indulge in…

The women are beautiful and sexy (sorry if that sounds sexist, but it’s simply true).

The weather is always warm.

The landscapes are breathtaking.

You can indulge in many of the “controlled substances” that pass through on their way to the great demand centers up north.

The natives aren’t “restless” at all, but quite friendly and welcoming…as long as you mind your manners.

Living is simply much easier in Costa Rica.

It’s easy just to sit back and…indulge.

Much easier than in, say, Duluth, Des Moines, or Detroit.

In fact, I would say anywhere between the Tropics of Cancer and Capricorn, at least in the Americas, the temptation of indulgence is an irresistible force.

But as I sit here writing this, only a few days away from the close of this decade of indulgence, I can finally say, OK, enough is enough.

There’s work to be done…in the rapidly diminishing time that I’ve got left to do it.

I know it might sound weird to a lot of folks, especially my fellow expats, many of whom have already given me comically puzzling looks upon learning of my “outrageously stupid” repatriation plans, but…

I’m just tired of it…tired of living the indulgent life.

It’s become, well, boring.

Listen, now don’t go confusing “indulgence” with luxury.

Since I barely have a proverbial pot to piss in, my life here has been anything but luxurious.

But the cool thing about Costa Rica is that you can indulge to your heart’s content on a shoestring budget.

Lately I’ve faced some cognitive dissonance concerning my life here.

Because, truthfully, a life of indulgence is the opposite of a life of impact.

And since that’s what I’m supposed to be all about, I’ve heroically decided it’s time to get the hell out of Dodge.

Where am I going?

Well, if you’ve read anything I’ve written lately, you should know that I’ve chosen Portland, Oregon.

Why Portland?

Why not?

You see, let’s face it, I’m kind of a weird guy…right?

And Portland is a place where weirdness is, well, sort of embraced.

Keep Portland Weird

The motto of the city is “Keep Portland Weird”, so I thought I’d lend a hand to the effort by moving there myself!

Got it now?

I once thought that simply by living as a poor, yet remarkably indulgent, U.S. expat in Costa Rica, I would be that guy, that Costa Rica Guy, who could show the world the happiness of living with less.

However, there’s more to impact than that.

There’s more to living impact-fully than minimalism, sustainability, hydroponic gardening, meditation and recycling. There are grave problems in the world that need fixing. And somebody’s got to roll up their sleeves and get to work.

So, heigh-ho, heigh-ho, it’s off to work I go!

Goodbye Costa Rica…

Hello, Portlandia!

 

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The Misguided Message of Tony Robbins

December 3, 2014 by costaricaguy 8 Comments

The Misguided Message of Tony Robbins

I can remember it almost like it was yesterday…

It must’ve been 1996 and I was getting ready to go to work at the law firm in Charlotte, N.C.

The TV was on and this infomercial appeared on screen with this dude with sculptured hair, big, brilliant white teeth and a deep, booming voice…

it was Tony Robbins.

He was raving about his CD audio program, Personal Power, which he claimed was guaranteed to transform your life.

He captured my attention, as Tony is an expert at doing, and I ended up ordering the program.

I was about to finish the executive MBA program at the University of S.C. and I’d been offered a management position with a company in Myrtle Beach.

It was a bold move to step outside of the career I’d studied so hard for and spent the last 7 years working in…

and I knew, once you leave the legal profession, it can be hard to ever come back.

So, I felt I could use exactly the type of motivational kick in the pants that Tony was offering.

That was the start of a relationship with Tony that bordered on cultish obsession.

After that initial experience walking the beach with my walkman blasting Robbins’ distinctive voice against my eardrums and into the cerebral cortex…

I embarked on an all-out Tony Robbins immersion phase that lasted the better part of a decade.

I attended his one day business seminar, twice to be exact. One of those was his last event, for which I chartered a private plane, so that my entire Live Oak staff could attend the event in New York City.

I did his signature Unleash the Power Within event, a three day affair that includes the famous fire walk experience.

During that event I signed up for Date with Destiny, which is the first of a series of three events that Tony calls, Mastery University.

I did all three.

I was at the famous last Life Mastery event on the big island of Hawaii when the planes hit the twin towers on 9-11.

All in all, I guess I spent around $25,000 during this Tony Robbins life phase…including extensive travel expenses, as Tony’s events were always held at the swankiest and most expensive hotels.

So, I believe I speak with some level of experience when I write this morning about the misguided message of Tony Robbins…misguided, at least, in my opinion, holding the worldview that I do today.

Now, granted, my worldview has shifted…dramatically.

Back when I was doing my Robbins thing I was a devout fundamentalist Christian. I never really had trouble reconciling that fact with what Robbins taught.

After all, God wanted me to succeed, right?

I do remember often praying for Tony’s salvation.

Did I ever actually meet him? Actually I did, a couple times, but only to briefly shake his hand and tell him how much his life had meant to mine.

And it did…Tony’s teaching did change me. It released me from many of the doubts about myself that had held me back.

But it also caused me to fixate on that aspect of life that Tony claims we all must deal with…

becoming financially free.

That means having enough money to do what you want, when you want, where you want…etc., etc.

I see now that Tony has written a new book about, take a guess,…

money.

I caught him on Maria Forleo this morning being interviewed about the book.

One of the events in Mastery University was called Wealth Mastery. In it Tony divulged investing secrets of the mega-rich. Seems now Tony has decided all those “secrets” are a bunch of hooey and the best thing to do is put your money in low cost market index funds…yawn!

So, in what manner do I believe Tony to be misguided?

You see, I don’t believe a focus on attaining financial freedom is a sustainable concept, not on personal, nor planetary, levels.

Tony taught me, or so I interpreted his teaching, that I had to fix myself, especially from a financial perspective, before I could fix the world.

I just no longer believe that’s true.

I believe a focus on fixing the world is what fixes the self.

That is, a life where impact is the motivation, rather than self-interest (especially rather than economic self-interest), is what will give our lives meaning and fulfilment.

Tony tells us there is nothing wrong with money, with having things.

Oh, but I believe that there definitely is.

You see, the world can no longer sustain the wealth of a whole bunch of Tony Robbins wannabes.

Tony is an entertainer and in our society entertainers make a lot of money. And Tony has indeed made a lot of money…some of it off of me!

And his message basically is, hey, if I can do it, so can you.

That might be true, but it doesn’t make it a good thing…not on a personal or a planetary level.

This world simply doesn’t need more rich people…it needs more impact minded people.

People who couldn’t give a flip about absolute financial freedom, but who care passionately about absolute human freedom.

That is, the freedom that comes when all people on this planet can live lives of health and dignity.

Right now, we’re far from that and as the rich keep getting richer and the poor poorer…with many of those rich taking the very advice Tony is peddling…

that level of human freedom is becoming more and more elusive for millions upon millions that inhabit this planet.

I admire Tony Robbins. He has done a lot of good for a lot of people.

He always ends his books and seminars with a call to impact and that’s a good thing.

But, you see, I believe rather than leave that for the end…

it should come at the beginning.

 

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