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Happiness with Artificial Ingredients

March 21, 2014 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

happiness with artificial ingredients

I’ve been going on lately about happiness.

Seems I’ve come to some recent conclusions on the topic, namely…

that happiness is more plausible when promoted and

shared.

If you think about it those two concepts are related, maybe even the same.

I’m reading Adam Braun’s book, The Promise of a Pencil.

Adam was inspired during a Semester at Sea by a little Indian boy whose one thing most wanted in life was a pencil (which, of course, is a metaphor for an education).

So, Adam started an organization with $25 in the bank called Pencils of Promise that is building schools in places where children would otherwise have no ability to enjoy a decent education.

I believe from the looks of him during the book promotion interviews I’ve seen lately, that he’s pretty doggone happy.

And his happiness is being promoted and shared with children who just want education.

It’s a reciprocal happiness…the kind that really matters…and lasts.

Cool stuff…this happiness.

So, if it’s true that happiness is only real when promoted and shared, then why do we insist on looking for other forms of it?

I’ll call those types….

Happiness with artificial ingredients.

Here are some examples…

Thing-based Happiness – The idea that somehow inanimate objects will bring us happiness. If I could just have that [blank], well then I’ll be happy. Then the thing rusts or runs out and so goes our happiness.

Career-based Happiness – The perfect job will bring the perfect life and the perfect experience of happiness…never happens, especially not these days.

Relational-based Happiness – Wait, doesn’t that contradict with my premise? Well, sort of, but I’m not talking about shared or promoted happiness, but co-dependent happiness…that is, that the only way to experience happiness is to have this or that person. Problem comes when they don’t feel the same way.

Chemically-induced Happiness – We look for happiness in a bottle of booze, or a joint, or line of coke. Problem with those things is that the temporary happiness always has the flip-side, the happiness hangover, which is anything but happy. True happiness doesn’t give hangovers.

Self-indulgence just never works as a formula to achieve lasting happiness.

Success (or goal)-oriented Happiness – Happiness comes from the achievement of some goal, like 6-pack abs, closing the deal, or making the sale, etc. Problem is that once you achieve it, the happiness goes away until the next one.

Good Looks-based Happiness – If I could only look a certain way, maybe I will be able to attract happiness. Externally based happiness, which is really what all of these examples are, is just not real, nor lasting. And that’s especially true with this type…even with the surgery option (think Michael Jackson).

Purpose-based Happiness – If I could just discover my purpose, why it is that I’m here, then I’ll be happy. Problem with this is that you’re here to just be happy, not to discover that fact.

I mean isn’t it kind of absurd that you can only be happy by discovering that you’re suppose to be?

Peace and Tranquility-related Happiness – If I am at peace with myself and others, then happiness will ensue. That’s a state of happiness that is awfully hard to maintain, since the potentially very different conceptions of others are involved.

Intellectual Happiness – Knowledge and intelligence are the keys that will unlock the doors to happiness. Well, sometimes the more we know the more depressed we can become about the precarious state of things.

Dogma-based Happiness – The idea that happiness is discovered on the road to religious conformity and obedience. I’ve seen a few of these types in my lifetime (even been one) and none of them appear to me to be all that happy.

Religious dogma can be a terribly complex and difficult formula for happiness.

I think the problem with all of the above is that happiness is never discovered “out there”, but rather “in here.”

And, once experienced, it just doesn’t work out so well to try and keep it to yourself.

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Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: adam braun, happiness, pencils of promise, removing impact blinders

The Truth of Christopher McCandless

March 19, 2014 by costaricaguy 3 Comments

the truth of Christopher McCandless

If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?

Interesting philosophical question.

Yesterday I read a quote by the late Christopher McCandless that appeared on a Facebook post.

It inspired me to dig deeper.

McCandless was a backpacker who donned the name Alexander Supertramp. He shunned all materialistic excesses of society and made his way to the Alaska wilderness.

He even disposed of his prior identity and never told a soul where he was going.

For his family, he just up and vanished.

He thought that happiness, or ultimate freedom, could be found in the wild.

Living off the land.

His adventure is documented in a book and movie, both entitled In the Wild.

McCandless lived in an abandoned bus that had been converted into a hunting shelter for 112 days before succumbing to fatigue and starvation from lack of available food.

He thought that he was cut off from any means of return by the rain-swollen river, but in reality there was a hand-operated tram that he could have used to cross only a quarter mile away.

So, you see, his isolation existed mainly inside his head…

but that’s exactly what he wanted.

In the movie, one of the last entries in his diary, scribbled with shaky hands inside the warmth of his sleeping bag…the place where he was found some time later, dead, decaying and weighing less than 70 pounds…was this…

Happiness is only real when shared.

That one made me think.

For the last decade I’ve been on my own personal odyssey.

Like McCandless, I grew tired of the rules. Of the norms that society, at least the one I came from, placed on me.

So, in not quite so dramatic a form as McCandless, I decided to make my own personal escape.

A search for happiness…and freedom.

Isolated from those who do really love me, rather than happiness, or freedom, I’ve found, like McCandless, what is more akin to slow death…a starvation of love.

McCandless made his discovery a little too late in the game.

I hope it’s not too late for me.

He had his adventures, as have I…but what we were both searching for never came in those moments of extreme isolation.

Rather they were found in the company of those we care for.

I believe we humans were created to be social creatures.

We don’t function so well in isolation. Maybe that’s why solitary confinement is such a dreaded form of torture.

We were created to love and to be loved.

So, as an alternative to the tree question, I would like to pose a different philosophical conundrum …

If an adventurous sort seeks happiness alone in the jungles of Costa Rica…can that emotion ever truly exist?

Sometimes life’s lessons come very hard.

Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: christopher mccandless, in the wild, removing impact blinders

Selfless-Esteem

March 16, 2014 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

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I think self-esteem and vanity are correlated…

albeit, inversely.

Because the most vain are generally the ones with the lowest self-esteem.

That is, self-consciousness, vanity and low self-esteem tend to go hand in hand.

It would appear that the more I am concerned about me and how the world sees me, the more I tend to not like me that much.

This is especially true of the most beautiful among us.

Why do Hollywood starlets routinely fall from the pedestal upon which we loft them to the depths of despair, drug addiction and self-inflicted death?

Because of an empty sense that they don’t quite measure up to the image we’ve projected upon them?

The psychologist tells me that my problems stem from low self-esteem.

That I need to be in love with that person I see in the mirror each morning.

But that’s particularly hard when I don’t really know who that person is.

Who am I…seriously?

A body?

A product of my past?

A job that I do?

A father?

A husband?

A failure?

Truth is, I’m not any one, nor all, of those things.

Who, or what, I am is a potential fulfillment of the purpose of my creator, here for a specific reason, and that reason has nothing to do with my, or the world’s, narrow conception of me.

Unless we can get off the dead-end track of thinking about ourselves in such restricted and limited ways, I believe we will never truly live the life we were meant to live.

So, self-esteem doesn’t come from gazing in the mirror each morning and liking what you see.

It comes when we realize that there is a purpose to be served that cannot possibly be contained in that limited reflection.

In that sense, self-esteem should be an entirely selfless concept…it becomes selfless-esteem…

hmm, kinda takes some of the pressure off, doesn’t it?

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Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: removing impact blinders, self-esteem

Something About a Mountain

March 12, 2014 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

something about a mountain

There’s just something about a mountain.

I grew up a flat-lander, on the coasts of North and South Carolina.

However, mountains have always drawn me, mysteriously, like a cosmic magnetic pull.

Maybe that is the reason I love Costa Rica so much.

I have often wondered what exactly it is that keeps me glued here?

I believe it may be the mountains that Costa Rica has in abundant supply.

So many people flock to Costa Rica for its beaches, or to see the Arenal Volcano.

Granted Costa Rica has gorgeous beaches and the Arenal Volcano is an amazing sight to behold, but for yours truly the real magic is up in those mountains.

When I look up at the majestic peaks, I feel inspired and I start to wonder. What would it be like to stand on top of that peak right now? How long would it take to get there? What is life like for the people I can see living within those vibrant green folds? What could I discover in a journey to the top?

I am a person with a fairly high sense of adventure. Mountains are the best way I know to satisfy my craving.

I have made two treks to the summit of Chirripo, Costa Rica’s tallest peak (at around 12,500 feet), the first one with my oldest daughter. She said it was the hardest thing she’d ever done, but was glad she went.

michelle on chirripo

I think mountains serve to give one a sense of constancy…something that can be relied upon.

After all, they’ve been there for quite a long time, and probably, hopefully, won’t be leaving any time soon.

I can rely on the fact that whenever I leave Costa Rica, usually for flatter ground, those mountains will still be there when I return. It always comes as a relief to see them.

It feels like home.

When I used to get stressed out by the general hustle and bustle of living in a pretty large city (San Jose), where did I go to escape? The mountains.

In fact, I finally made the ultimate escape to Perez Zeledon, which is nestled in the valley between the Talamancas (the highest mountains in the country) and the Fila Costeña (coastal range).

I’ve always had my favorite little mountain hideaways. Places where no one could ever hope to find me. Neither Ex’s nor IRS agents could get to me up there.

me and chirripo

I can look down upon everything I imagine might be happening below and feel a sense of removal, the quiet calm of being “above the fray.”

I really need those mountains, almost as much as water, food and fresh air.

Because, my friend, they are food for the soul and without a way to nourish the soul we tend to slip down a rung on the ladder of evolutionary growth.

At least, I do.

Mountains tend to be great for removing impact blinders…for putting one in his or her place.

It is not a coincidence that mountains lead you up…

a little closer to heaven.

Saw this video today about the life cycle of a mountain…

The Weight of Mountains from Studiocanoe on Vimeo.

Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: costa rica mountains, removing impact blinders

Hell Hath No Fury

March 11, 2014 by costaricaguy Leave a Comment

hell hath no fury

Everything I do, I do for my family.

Walter White (WW)

Holy Sh*t…I caught the last few episodes of Breaking Bad that were recently (finally) made available on Netflix.

I know, I know…I’m a little late to the game on this, but remember I live in a different world.

Late last year I caught up with all the episodes that were then available during a marathon session of Netflix vegging out…

It is in my opinion one of the best television series of all time. The very idea of it was pure genius.

During the last few episodes WW’s life completely unraveled and man was it interesting to watch…especially his reactions to it.

He tried desperately to retain some semblance of rationalized “goodness” as he implored his family to pack and make a getaway after the famous standoff in the desert where WW had buried his millions.

I have unraveled and re-raveled several times in recent decades.

Currently going through another potential unraveling and that made watching these last episodes all the more interesting.

What did I learn?

Well, I wrote the following last year (for CRG) and I believe it is still cogent…

Spent Saturday watching Breaking Bad episodes from Season 5 on Netflix.

I caught the first few episodes of the series on TV when it initially aired and really liked it. But then I moved to a place where I no longer could get them, so I missed everything after Season 1, until Saturday.

I remember sympathizing with the main character, Walter White, after the first few shows. He had been dealt a very shitty hand. While his method of dealing with it may not have been the best, hey, could you blame him?

But as I watched Season 5 it immediately became obvious that something had changed. The cancer was gone. The money problems pretty much solved.

But WW was hooked. Not on his product, but on being the best at producing it. He had become “the best” and all that mattered was being that, consequences (to his marriage, family, others that got in his way, etc.) be damned.

Money really wasn’t the issue at all at this point…

it was ego.

And we all know that hell hath no fury like a middle-aged man scorned.

By that age one has hardened. And the fact is that the world is pretty much run by these guys.

The impact blinders are firmly in place and rarely removed.

Ego becomes the primary driver.

After all no one knows better than them, right?

Walter White was certainly a smart guy. No one can doubt that.

So, why the dumb dedication to a craft that would surely do him in, eventually?

Couldn’t he have found a better way to employ that meticulous mind of his?

Not when ego is in the driver’s seat.

Not when the thing that mattered most was retaining his throne as king of the meth cooking world.

What is the thing that matters most to you? Is it something that feeds the ego?

When ego is at the wheel, you can definitely make some serious impacts…albeit almost exclusively negative and self-centered ones.

At 52 (Walter’s age…mine as well), a cynical and ego-driven world view can really kick into overdrive.

After all, there ain’t many new tricks out there for these old dogs.

Also, time is running out, so better look out for number 1…

while he’s still available.

And the average age of a U.S. Congressman is 57.

Scary thought, huh?

WW meets his end where it all began…the floor of the meth lab.

The smile on his face betraying the true location of his darkened heart.

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Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: breaking bad, removing impact blinders

From Revolutionary to Redeemer

February 28, 2014 by costaricaguy 1 Comment

revolutionary to redeemer

I just finished Zealot: The Life and Times of Jesus of Nazareth by Reza Aslan.

It is a deeply interesting and provocative read.

Like Aslan I came to Christ out of a longing to belong, but for different motivations.

His because he was a U.S. transplanted Iranian who wanted acceptance in a hostile new place.

I just wanted a girl.

In my early 20’s I was a wild child. That is, until one night at a party I met this tall, big brown eyed USC coed.

We continued our wild ways for a time until she told me she felt compelled to go to church. She had grown up as a Christian and she felt pulled to reverse direction (repent, in spiritual parlance).

Soon thereafter I was faced with a decision myself. Repent and accept Christ as Savior, or lose my girlfriend.

I repented.

And for the better part of the next two decades I lived the life of a borne-again Christian.

But my nature compelled me to question…even though I did so inside my head, since doing so openly would not go over so well with the brethren.

I was always drawn to the book of James. It seemed odd and out of place in the midst of Paul’s more popular epistles.

In fact, James in many ways seemed to contradict what Paul was saying.

So much so, in fact, that the great protestant reformer, Martin Luther, wanted to de-canonize the book written by Jesus’ own brother altogether.

I read in Zealot about how this odd book that is hidden among-st Paul’s many faith without works exhortations could hold important truths as to how a Jerusalem based revolutionary movement became a dominant world-wide religion in a relatively short period of time.

You see, James was the brother of Jesus (not cousin…brother). Perhaps there is no New Testament figure who was closer to the man himself…the historic man who actually lived in the land the Romans called Palestine.

Whereas Paul came on to the scene a good many years after Jesus’ death on the cross.

There are dramatic parallels to what Jesus said and what the book of James proclaims.

That is, faith-based works, especially those directed to the poor, are what God seeks.

And, like Jesus, James had some pretty heavy admonishments for the rich.

The Jewish Mosaic Law also features prominent in James, as it did in the words of Christ.

Whereas Paul tends to dismiss the importance of the Law altogether.

The premise, or conclusion, of Aslan’s Zealot is that Jesus, the historic man, was a revolutionary. He was a Jew who headed a messianic movement directed specifically at Jews. His goal was to topple the prevailing order. And order in which the synagogue and its rulers were becoming increasingly wealthy at the expense of the poor. And order in which the government of Rome manipulated them at will.

Jesus’ goal was to cleanse the temple…to reestablish not a spiritual heavenly kingdom, but a kingdom right here on this earth, in that specific place (Jerusalem) and for one specific people…the Jews.

He failed and was crucified by the Romans for treason.

That was the only reason the Romans crucified people.

So, how did he go from revolutionary to redeemer and instigator of one of the world’s greatest religions?

And all this happened in the few decades that passed after his death.

One thing that Aslan points out that resonated with me is that the contrast one can observe between the book of James and the epistles of Paul at least partially reveals the answer.

Paul was a Hellenistic and educated Jew. He took the movement from Jerusalem to the Greek world. And in the process he transformed the message of Christ from one of revolution against Rome to redemption and salvation of the world.

A message that resonated much better with the Greeks and Romans, which of course allowed the message to take hold.

So much so, that the Romans eventually made it their own official religion.

Do you think Jesus the Jewish revolutionary really ever envisioned such a thing?

Now why would Paul do that?

Well, you’ll have to admit it’s a pretty cool thing to have accomplished.

Actually, that’s a question that Aslan fails to answer.

Aslan’s book does not purport to solve all the mysteries of the universe, but it does make one think…

and question…

and that’s a good thing.

So, where does all this leave me…from a faith perspective?

I’ve written before that I believe one should question authoritative propositions.

And in the U.S. there’s hardly less of an authoritative proposition as the one that says the bible is inerrant and must be accepted…lock, stock and barrel.

Despite its obvious inconsistencies.

Like those between the book of James and the epistles of Paul.

And since we all want to belong, we accept that proposition, even when the facts potentially suggest otherwise.

I consider myself a follower of Jesus, the historic revolutionary.

But not a follower of Paul.

Paul may well have fabricated a heavenly version of Jesus Christ who is presented as the faith-based redeemer of those pre-chosen by God.

That’s a worldview that can have dangerously divisive repercussions…

as it certainly has.

But the historic Jesus of Nazareth may well have been more along the lines of an impact-focused revolutionary.

One whose message would probably not resonate so well with the religious-right in this current day and age.

He would definitely be considered a progressive.

But that also happens to be the Jesus that is currently more in line with my personal world view.

And yes, Reza Aslan, formerly a Christian, is now a Muslim…

just wanted to get that out in the open.

Even so, he has a well-educated and informed thing or two to say that’s worth listening to.

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Filed Under: Removing Impact Blinders Tagged With: jesus, removing impact blinders, reza aslan, zealot

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